What is this special relationship that fathers and daughters share? What is the bond, the unspoken yet unmistakable cosmic connection that binds them together? What is it that makes the mother feel like an outsider and at times, torn between tenderness and jealousy?
My daughter has made her preference for her daddy crystal clear. HE is the fun guy. He is the guy who lets her be a baby and encourages her to be as impish and naughty as she desires. She in turn loves the attention, loves the rough and tumble and loves being tossed in the air amidst squeals of utter delight. Come to think of it, I've been my daddy's girl too. It was his presence that I would always seek out no matter how much my MA tried to be there. It was him I would complain to when I was scolded. It was him I turned to financial advice and it was his approval I sought in all aspects of my life and in most of my decisions. My mother probably felt like I am doing now. Always there but never fun enough.
I took her presence, her love, her sacrifices and her approval for granted just as I feel my daughter doing the same with me. My baby is too young to know about what she is doing but life does have a funny way of coming FULL CIRCLE!
When I see father and daughter interacting, I feel like an outsider looking into their world. I am always hovering around trying to fill her stomach, quench her thirst, clean her grubby hands or cushion her fall. In my lap she sleeps at night but she runs to the door with outstretched arms when daddy walks into the door. Her face lights up and her 1000 watt smile dazzles me when she looks at her daddy adoringly.
Will she make silly cards for her daddy when she is in kindergarten? Will she seek him out when she lands at the airport? Will he be the first person she calls when she gets a raise? Will she call him incessantly if he is late coming home from work and will his presence calm her in times of crisis? Its a connection I cannot explain, its a connection I share with my father and i hope my daughter feels the same way. The love a mother and father give to the child is special as it is varied. It is intense yet different. A mother is considered special for all that she does for her but it is the father that bridges the gap and lends a helping hand in shaping who she is going to be...
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY
1 comment:
VERY VERY true....
I often had a chat with ishita when our daughter was in her tummy.. that how will she recognise me when she is born?? since you are her mother, how will she know that i am father(DADDY COOL)??
Now I got the answer.
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